This is an interesting question: If you've been "dating" for a long time (as opposed to having been in a "relationship"), do you forget how to be in a relationship? Or is being a girlfriend like riding a bike, i.e., no matter how long it's been, you can immediately get back on and ride?
I think it's more like a bike. But to me, the more important question is, when you take a break from being in relationships are you putting your relationship maturity on hold? What I mean is, the kind of person you are in a relationship at 18 is not the same person you are at 30. Part of that is dating and relationship experience, and part of it is just general life experience. But for those of us who have gone several years without serious, long-term relationships, are we stagnating? Is my relationship maturity stuck at 22, no matter how many people I casually date or how much I mature in the rest of my life? I'd like to think that life experiences, not just relationship experiences, add to your maturity and ability to deal in a relationship; and thus you're never stagnating. But I admit I have an interest in believing that, too. Otherwise, am I going to have to wait to find a man who's been on break as long as I have? Or (a little better) date a much younger man, who is at the same place in his relationship life - his dating age, you might say - as I am?
And if relationships aren't like bikes, does that mean...women are like fish?
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Like riding a bike I believe. I believe your maturity counts in a future relationship. I do however think the longer you are single the harder it is to give up some of your single habits and compromise. It may take some time to get into a routine with someone but you are not stagnate.
It is VERY difficult being single for a long time and then being in a couple. It is a daily struggle to give up the "single" moments in your life. When there are two people that enter a couple that have been single for different amounts of time there is a difference, there may be something to this whole dating age thing. I do however think that eventually you get to be on the same page..or as I like to put it on MY page.
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