The Day Cometh

Stop reading now if you have not seen the Sex and the City movie because I am here to spoil it all!!

I cried, I laughed, I cried some more..............aah how I have missed the girls. The emotion was so real and I really truly felt the pain when Carrie got out of the car and made it hail flower petals!! So raw and so true and so painful. The acting was great, the story line was great, Charlotte pooped her pants, I will miss the girls yet again! I have watched my DVDs of the series so many times that the plastic covers are no longer covers but merely individual unattached plastic pages that sit atop the DVDs. I love the girls, I love the sex, I love the city!!
If you haven't seen the movie yet, go see it with your girlfiends, by your self or with your man, it doesn't matter, it is good no matter who is sitting beside you! Bring some tissues, and be prepared for a great great movie!

Get "Carried" away with the new SATC trailer

Sex and the City update! Great new trailer but warning there are plenty of spoilers!!

What if?

I feel that friends are important in life, saying that- what do ya do when a friend doesn't return phone calls? What if a friends voice mail box is full? I have a friend that I will call Jay. This Jay is an awesome person and I love Jay but I am beginning to take it personal when Jay doesn't pick up the phone or call me back or even return my text messages or pages. I know that Jay is busy and Jay has TONS of stuff going on right now but does Jay not know that the world revolves around me and that Jay needs to help a brother out and answer a call? Big things are happening in my life that I would LOVE for Jay to know about them. I have moved across the country, I have big things that will happen and I only have 6 and half more months to plan for it, and I really want to talk to Jay about those things AND I wanna know what is going on in Jay's life, the voice mail box is full, the unanswered calls, the unanswered text's and pages? Am I being too much of a stalker? Maybe. Am I worried sick that something has happened to my good friend Jay? YES! I just want to talk to Jay and KNOW that everything is OK. Rollar coasters happen in life and our friends are there to reassure us that the upcoming loop that will turn us upside down won't kill us, and that the big fast downhill drop will lead to a big climb where we can see 360 degrees from where we sit. I miss my Jay! Jay is the kind of friend that does the rollar coasters in life well and has expierenced many ups and downs, I need my Jay right now to talk me through the loops, calm me down and tell me I will make it through. I miss Jay.

What cartoon character are you?

I am Sponge Bob Square Pants! As much as I didn't want to be it is the best one for me. I enjoy these fun little quizzes! Feel free to leave me a comment and let me know what you are.

Everyone has a personality of a cartoon character. Have you ever asked yourself what cartoon character do you most resemble?

A group of investigators got together and analyzed the personalities of well known and modern cartoon characters.
The information that was gathered was made into this test.

Answer all the questions (only 10) with what describes you best, add up all your Points (which are next to the answer that you choose) at the end and look for your results.

Do not cheat by looking at the end before you are done.

1. Which one of the following describes the perfect date?
a) Candlelight dinner (4 pts.)
b) Fun/Theme Park (2 pts.)
c) Painting in the park (5 pts)
d) Rock concert (1 pt.)
e) Going to the movies (3 pts.)

2. What is your favorite type of music?
a) Rock and Roll (2 pts.)
b) Alternative (1 pt.)
c) Soft Rock (4 pts.)
d) Country (5 pts.)
e) Pop (3 pts.)

3. What type of movies do you prefer?
a) Comedy (2 pts.)
b) Horror (1 pt.)
c) Musical (3 pts.)
d) Romance (4 pts.)
e) Documentary (5 pts.)

4. Which one of these occupations would you choose if you only could choose one of these?
a) Waiter (4 pts.)
b) Professional Sports Player (5 pts.)
c) Teacher (3 pts.)
d) Police (2 pts.)
e) Cashier (1 pt)

5. What do you do with your spare time?
a) Exercise (5 pts.)
b) Read (4 pts.)
c) Watch television (2 pts.)
d) Listen to music (1 pt.)
e) Sleep (3 pts.)

6. Which one of the following colors do you like best?
a) Yellow (1 pt.)
b) White (5 pts.)
c) Sky Blue (3 pts.)
d) Dark Blue (2 pts.)
e) Red (4 pts.)

7. What do you prefer to eat?
a) Snow (3 pts.)
b) Pizza (2 pts.)
c) Sushi (1 p t.)
d) Pasta (4 pts.)
e) Salad (5 pts.)

8. What is your favorite holiday?
a) Halloween (1 pt.)
b) Christmas (3 pts.)
c) New Year (2 pts.)
d) Valentine's Day (4 pts.)
e) Thanksgiving (5 pts.)

9. If you could go to one of these places which one would it be?
a) Paris (4 pts)
b) Spain (5 pts)
c) Las Vegas (1 pt)
d) Hawaii (4 pts)
e) Hollywood (3 pts)

10. With which of the following would you prefer to spend time with?
a) Someone Smart (5 pts.)
b) Someone attractive (2 pts.)
c) Someone who likes to Party (1 pt.)
d) Someone who always has fun (3 pts.)
e) Someone very sentimental (4 pts.)

Now add up your points and find out the answer you have been waiting for!

Put your character in the subject line and forward to your friends and back to the person that sent this to you.

It is very interesting to see 'who' your friends are!

(10-16 points) You are Garfield:
You are very comfortable, easy going, and you definitely know how to have fun but sometimes you take it to an extreme. You always know what you are doing and you are always in control of your life Others may not see things as you do, but that doesn't mean that you always have to do what is right. Try to remember, your happy spirit may hurt you or others.

(17-23 points) You are Snoopy:
You are fun, you are very cool and popular. You always know what's in and you are never are out of style. You are good at knowing how to satisfy everyone else. You have probably disappeared for a few days more than once but you always come home with the family values that you learned. Being married and having children are important to you, but only after you have had your share of fun times.

(24-28 points) You are Elmo:
You have lots of friends and you are also popular, always willing to give advice and help out a person in need. You are very optimistic and you always see the bright side of things. Some good advice: try not to be too much of a dreamer. Dreaming too big could cause many conflicts in your life.

(29-35 points) You are Sponge Bob Square Pants:
You are the classic person that everyone loves. You are the best friend that anyone could ever have and never wants to lose. You never cause harm to anyone and they would never not understand your feelings. Life is a journey, it's funny and calm for the most part. Stay away from traitors and jealous people, and you will be stress free.

(36-43 points) You are Charlie Brown:
You are tender, you fall in love quickly but you are also very serious about all relationships. You are a family person. You call your Mom every Sunday. You have many friends and may occasionally forget a few Birthdays. Don't let your passion confuse you with reality.

(44-50 points) You are Dexter:
You are smart and definitely a thinker.. Every situation is fronted with a plan. You have a brilliant mind. You demonstrate very strong family principles. You maintain a stable routine but never ignore a bad situation when it comes. Try to do less over thinking every once in a while to spice things up a bit with spontaneity!

Sex tips....everyone can use at least one!

The article is called 27 Things Every Woman Should Know about Sex from Redbook. Things like Don't forget to ask, Sex gets better with age, his lack of a flaw meter and the more you get it the more you want it. Good stuff to remember and to do!!!!!!

10 things you should never say.......

Just thought before Valentines Day I would share these articles about what you should never say to a woman or to a man. Good things to remember in a relationship, newly dating or even good advice for friends. Most you have probably heard before but it is always good to be reminded. Sometimes its best to choose not to say anything. Relax and it's just a game are my two least favorite things to hear!
P.S. Just want to mention that that I hate this holiday....with or without a significant other...this holiday sucks! If you have to be reminded to say I love you then you should not be in that relationship! Maybe some flowers (doesn't have to be roses, daisies are nice or tulips) or maybe a lovely card but remember to send flowers or a card sometimes just because and then valentines day is just another day with much less pressure!

Truth in Advertising

Very, very subtle.

Sex and the City Blog

Sex and the City movie is due to hit theaters May 30th finally! Here is the official blog for the movie if you want to check in from time to time.

Single girls choices!

A great episode of Sex and the City was done about how much the single gal spends celebrating her friends life choices. Engagement gifts, bridal showers, wedding presents, baby showers, and kids birthdays. What do the single gals get for not marrying the wrong guy, choosing not to have children or for buying their first home? I came across this article that brings up the point again and I think it is worth mentioning. Remember marriage is not what it once was and some of us still believe in picking one person and making it work. If I am not 100% sure that this is not "the one" then I am not interested in spending my vows on them. Look around and think how many people do you know with successful and happy relationships? Doesn't seem like many, does it! Just keep an open mind and don't judge the single gal for being single.

Follow-up on the Target ad post

Prof. Volokh saw the ad and reached a similar conclusion.

Self-absorbed jerks

From the New York Times:

But you have to admit that "I'm having a midlife crisis" sounds a lot better than "I'm a narcissistic jerk having a meltdown."

Can't Stand it Any More (Updated)

Can't leave that other recent post on the top of the page any more; it's been three days of "pussy" each time I look at the blog. So instead I'll point to this underwhelming bit of advice-giving about what to do when someone says, "I love you," and you say it back but don't mean it. The comments are what make this post so interesting: Someone asks, what's the difference between "like" and "love"? A commenter responds: "You like someone if you enjoy having them around you. You love someone if their happiness and well-being is necessary to yours."

Sounds like a good definition, you think?

UPDATE: When Amy Alkon dropped by and left a comment on this post, I took a look at it and realized how insulting it was, not as a result of wanting to insult her but by being a sloppy writer. So I sent her a little note to apologize, because I'm a big fan of her column and had enjoyed her writing from time to time via her late friend, the wonderful journalist and blogger Cathy Seipp, who passed away early last year. I told her that instead of "underwhelming" I should have written "a bummer, because it's the best you can do in a bad situation but still uncomfortable." No one wants to have to suck it up and do what they know they have to do, which is why (I suspect) many people write into advice columnists in the first place. Dan Savage is always answering people that they already know what he's going to say, and many times (if you're a long-time reader or listener to the podcast) that is true. And a good lesson for me - don't sound like a jerk unless you mean to be a jerk, because you never know who is watching.

"All about pussy"

Amy writes that "feminists are up in arms about a Times Square Target billboard" depicting a woman making "snow angels" on top of the Target logo, and says, "For people who are supposedly about seeing women 'as people first,' these feminists sure are all about pussy!" (Click the link to view the ad and judge for yourself.)

Via Instapundit, with amused thanks.

Sex vs emotion: Men vs women

This is an interesting article about some generalizations on men and women but I wonder if post-sex intimacy is the best place for conversation? While I agree that it could be a good opportunity for some emotional exchange, I would like to warn women to remember to choose their topics carefully and not to exploit this moment. This is an opportunity for emotional exchange, not wish lists and such. I like the last line of the article:

But women sometimes demand too much emotional talk from men. Women
need to recognize that men often express affection best through actions
(changing a light bulb, fixing the VCR) rather than words.

I think we should all remember to acknowledge the little things other people do for us.

TKO smile!

I am sticking with the ad things for awhile. Here is a Terrel Owens ad for something. Who really cares what it is for, right?

Excellent Advice

"Bury the Stinking Carcass of your Old Relationship"

Saw this in an advice column today:

How long does it take for an individual to get over a relationship before s/he can get into another relationship and be mentally stable?

Mourning the death of a committed, long-term, dating relationship generally requires one to three months. For a marriage, it’s four months to one year. But these are averages and frankly, I flunked math. The actual period depends on how honest the couple has been with each other and themselves about the end of their intimacy (physical, emotional, spiritual and mental). The higher the rate of deception on either person’s part, the longer the process of healing for both. While mourning, it’s important to spend time alone, especially if doing so makes you uncomfortable. If you can’t enjoy your own company, you will rush to fill it with any warm body or addictive substances and behaviors. Instead, devote time to hanging with friends and to seeing a counselor to smooth the rough edges of your emotions. (Recovery-from-breakup hint: Your friends are not the best therapists, so be an adult and invest money in the real thing.) Also, avoid dating and stay away from hooking up with a stranger or your ex. Don’t troll Internet dating sites and resist joining. Without a proper period of mourning, you will drag the stinking carcass of your old relationship into any new one you attempt to establish, ruining the possibilities of a happily-ever-after for yourself and for the person you are dating.

How Stupid Do you think we are? (Plus: Seduce on a Budget!)

This has got to be one of the stupidest ad campaigns I have ever seen.

And where am I seeing it? All over Slate magazine, for the last two weeks. The ad with the rose petals keeps catching my eye, because it is so stupidly cliché that I couldn't help thinking it must be a joke. Please do yourself a favor and watch the slide show, which advocates such "budget" travel "romance" tips as "Cover the light with a scarf" or "Bring a split of champagne!" You think? Alcohol and mood lighting really works??

Fellas, face it – if you're attempting seduction, don't be taking her to the Motel 6 with cologne sprayed on the lightbulbs and scarves hanging off the lamps. (Have you noticed that the budget motels don't have bathtubs, or the ones they do have are really tiny? Good luck having a two-fer bath in those tubs!) If I walked with a fella into a room like that, I would turn around and run the other way, assuming that there was a saw or some other kind of woman-cutting device hidden in the bathroom.

The best budget seduction by far is to clean your stankass single boy apartment and invite her over for a late-night drink. (Because you can't afford a nice dinner, right? No need for dinner!) First, invest in a bottle of Fantastic and use it on all hard surfaces in your apartment (ALL of them, floors, doorknobs, fridge, tub, sink…), wash all of your dirty laundry (change those sheets! No woman wants to get with you in some nappy old dirty sheets!), and remove all garbage from your apartment. Leave the windows open for about two hours the same day to let that musty man-smell air out.

Then pick up a good but cheap bottle of wine (lots and lots of great options for $5-$10 a bottle; when you invite her, asks if she prefers red or white wine), some olives off the grocery store olive bar, and a small chunk of decent cheese or two. Hummus and some nice sesame crackers are cheap too, and then you can appear clean, sophisticated, and tasteful. Before she arrives, leave the lights on but light a few candles – like three or four – around the room where you plan to serve the wine. Stick with one not-overpowering scent, or get scentless "emergency" candles from Wal-Mart; nothing makes you gag more than walking into a place full of competing smells from a hodge podge of strongly scented candles! Put on a little music, but nothing "obvious" like Marvin Gaye. You will find that originality is sexy. If that's too much of a strain, look up the soundtrack to some chick flicks on amazon.com and grab a few of the sexy-sounding songs from there. Chance are, you'll hit one that she's seen and liked. When she gets tipsy from your cheap wine, invite her into your clean, fresh-smelling bed. Voila! A budget conquest that makes you look like a sophisticated stud.

The Economics of Marriage

Check out this examination of marriage and economics.

Another underwear "SMILE"

This is Swedish soccer player Fredrik Ljungberg. Is it just me or are the soccer players getting hotter every day?

Girls and Football. Stop whinning and start listening!

I am a huge football fan and always have been but I hear women all the time complaining about men and football. Here's the thing, it doesn't matter if it is football, baseball, the ballet or stamp collecting everyone (male and female) has things in their lives that they are passionate about. It doesn't matter if it is a woman who likes opera or a man who likes football, what matters is that you reach some common ground! Loving someone doesn't mean you have everything in common it means that despite your differences you want to share time with that person. Not every minute of every day I believe each person should have a small amount of their own life but sometimes you make a compromise and do something the other person wants to do so you can spend time together. This means if you want him to take you to the opera then maybe you should try watching a game or suggest going to a sports bar on Sunday to watch. However if you want this to work you can not sit there and roll your eyes and sigh the whole time. If you are going to spend the time then pay attention and try to learn something, even if its just the basics it will make an occasional game more enjoyable for you. If you decide after a couple tries that you just can't take it at all then decide to make that part of his life then let him do it by himself or with his friends with no strings attached and it will come back to you. Nagging or bitching about football Sunday is no way to win a man (or woman for that matter) over. Make that day your day with the girls so that you have something in your life also. As a quick note I want to say that most people are reasonable about their passions but from time to time you find the person who is so obsessive about it that other parts of their lives suffer. This is when you have to weigh your options and decide if this person is truly worth your time. For those women who would like to give this a try here is the article called Football 101 - A Girl's guide to Football - What's in it for her? that got me started on this subject. If you would like to learn a bit about football try Googling "Football for girls" or "Understanding the basics of the NFL".
For any men that wonder upon this article don't worry there are women out there that enjoy the game of football just as much as you do!

Back from sunny beaches

Vacation was the best ever! Lots of running, lots of beach bumming, lots of fun!

Beach Bum

I am taking some time to meditate, regroup, veg, chill, hang out....whatever you call it! Plan on hitting alot of beach and doing very little else! Have fun in the cold!